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Purpose and Plan

AMG Purpose Plan


Website:  www.amatterofgrace.com




Having reached the stage of our lives when it is necessary to actively prepare for our family’s well-being and needs after we are loosed from these mortal coils, we have determined to seek others who are willing to help in a ministry of compassion and benevolence to our special children.  We are searching for Good Samaritans as the one described in the Gospel of Luke.

Our travels through the churches for the past 25 years have shown a curious lack of awareness of the needs of the disabled.  We have known warm and sacrificial persons within congregations with whom we’ve worshipped.  Strangely, however, this appears the exception.  It seems a great worldliness of satisfaction has crept in “unawares” and obscured the insight of those charged by their Master with caring for the least among them.  Church people have not been immunized from the beauty and success gospel preached by 21st century American culture, and their apparent indifference begs comment.

The American church has for many years been in a freefall of apostasy and the intent of “A Matter of Grace” (AMG) is not to criticize the state of the church per se.  The abrogation of biblical doctrine is a matter for another page.  But false teachings affect people’s beliefs and behaviors. And it is to those within the church, as it pertains to their lives as followers of Christ, that the need of my family is directed.  AMG is an attempt to call out from the body of Christ a number of those whose hearts may be inclined to participating in the suffering of others- specifically three young men who will need their help in activities of daily living, decision-making and oversight of their needs.

Sam is 23 years old, Max is 15, and Charlie 14.  They are our biological children.  Maggie was born of my wife, and adopted into our family.  She is 25 years old and is normal, or “typical” if you wish.  Sam and Max share a permanent, pervasive, and congenital disability called cerebral palsy.  This is a neurological disorder that affects the body’s movement, coordination, and balance.  Persons with C.P. may also have cognitive deficits due to delayed acquisition of a variety of functional skills. Sam and Max use wheelchairs and at times need hands-on assistance for ambulation, transfers, and movements associated with the activities of daily living.  Charlie has Down-Syndrome, and is significantly delayed in his acquisition of speech and language skills.  Details concerning our children can be found on their individual pages on the website.

Charlie sustained a setback while attending Special Education classes at a local public school which has resulted in acute behavioral changes that demand 1:1 cares 24/7.  All aspects of Charlie’s life have been negatively and seriously impacted.  For this reason we brought Charlie home to educate and correct the dysfunction brought on by the aggressions he was subject to in his government school experience.

While we have home-educated all of our children, including our daughter Maggie, my wife and I were  products of public schooling. Our extended family consists of educators.  My wife’s father was a history teacher and several of her siblings are elementary and high school teachers.  Her brother Dave taught hearing impaired students at Gaulidet University in Washington, D.C.  We are not “head for the hills” radicals, although that may be the ultimate destination for many who know scripture and can see over the horizon.  We have utilized services that include physical therapy, speech and language therapies, occupational interventions and social services. We have used the programs available to the public at the local high school and county Vocational/Technical school.  However, the public school system, and the system of social services in which it is enmeshed,  is  contemptuous of the values and principles of a free society, such as once was ours.  Statistics and a rational inquiry clearly show public education has in many ways become a breeding ground of dysfunction, alienation, and subversion.  It certainly hurt our son Charlie.

Both my wife and I are nurses with careers beginning for myself in the late 1960’s.  Her length of service will be redacted due to a self-imposed vanity exemption.  We have had extensive experience in virtually every field of patient care including hospital, clinic, long term care, community nursing, corrections, military medicine, and pastoral ministry settings.  Within those clinical environments we have cared for geriatric, adult, adolescent, and child populations, gaining competencies in emergency department, acute care, medicine and surgery, and other practice areas.  Since 1998 I have focused my nursing practice in the arena of acute in-patient psychiatry; a.k.a. the “Heart of the Beast” from my philosophical perspective.  Like the Johnny Cash song lyric, “I’ve Been Everywhere”,   we know what it is like in whatever setting they might in the future find themselves.  And we are not encouraged.

Incredibly, (if not for the established apostasy pervading the institutional church) it is conventional wisdom these days to see the needs of others through the lens of government assignment.  Ironically  the  freedoms of American constitutional government has now morphed 180 degrees, establishing the benefactor (government) to gain controls over virtually every aspect of the most intimate and personal of relationships, the family.  Thus, the worldview of liberalism has struck at the heart of the family relationship in exonerating its members of their responsibilities one to the other.   The truth be told: The United States has become a society so impoverished in its collective soul that we’ve welcomed the nanny state.  We enjoy our convenience culture.  But the selfism permeating our culture is what we have as Christians labored to lose.

You can see this everywhere.  We have seen it in the placement of a functional grandparent with adequate means in a nursing home.  We have seen this in our practices with Advanced Directives such as “Do Not Resuscitate/Intubate” orders for persons whose manageable needs might be an encumbrance to the lifestyles of the person’s family.  Recent mandates at the national level have placed bureaucrats in positions usurping  family decision-making, with ominous implications.

My wife and I are determined not to allow this to control our boys.  A state hospital or group home is not what we want for them, nor is it what God had in mind for them when he gave them to us.  We have invested real prayer, real time, and real tears for them.  We see this as a simple test of our commitment and love for them.  It is what we would expect of the Lord who has called us.  We have trained them up in the way they should go and will not forfeit those teachings to others who will intentionally or otherwise undermine our family values.  We have labored, often under circumstances few might understand, to instill a biblical worldview and values in our children.

It is our mission plan to cultivate those scriptural values in their hearts and minds to serve them as  foundational  to how they should then live.  Government and conventional wisdom is inadequate to this task and increasingly hostile to our purposes and plan for our children as followers of Jesus Christ.

The above assessment should not be misunderstood as a retreat to a rabid fundamentalism that embraces restrictions on style at the cost of content (as in certain music, dress, or versions of scripture).  Nor do I find my peace and security in adherence to the dos and don’ts of much currently masquerading as biblical counsel.  Personal comfort zones of understanding the rules for Christian living  are often matters involving grace.  The Lord knows our hearts beyond their depths.  He knows we are dust.

The help we seek is concrete as well as spiritual.  Our long term plan involves the acquisition and development of a setting of safety and provision for my children.  They need a safe place to live.   Our short term focus is to finalize the ideas and formalize the plans.  This will involve prayer, clear thinking, and money.  None of this can be done by ourselves.  But we are determined to see this project through.

We need your help.  Please come on board for this adventure and keep your eyes on the Lord.  He’s gonna do some great things through all of us.

Sincerely, and with faith in Jesus Christ,

Tyler Anderson

Searching For The Samaritans: Part One

IMG_0589   “OMG, he’s a Jesus Freak!  Is this gonna be, like, a lecture, or something?  Yeah, yeah, I’ve heard about this Samaritan dude.   Isn’t he, like, the guy who, like, is walking along that road, and there is this other guy laying in the weeds cause someone, like, put the hurt on him?  And, so the “S” dude helps out the other dude and we’re supposed to be, like, the same to our neighbors, cause that’s what Jesus said we’re supposed to do.  Got it!  But, do we have to say, like, the “J” word?

   I’m writing this section just before Christmas and I’m looking at our tree.  The countdown to Christmas began  after Thanksgiving when we trudged out to the tree farm out on the edge of town. The kids were full of anticipation with a nip of the North wind in the air, the smell of pine in the forest of small trees, and the sound of fresh snow crunching softly under our boots.  We wandered about, down to the end of the balsam line, then up and over a ridge to where the short needle Colorado Spruce trees are hiding.  Maggie, our team’s leader finally spies a candidate for surgical removal from its home in the ground and points with approval to the 8 footer saying, “I think mom will like that one.”  So, I grabbed my ax and Maggie brought the saw.  5 minutes later we shared a moment of silence and allowed the shapely Spruce to say her last good-byes.  Darkness was falling quickly so I strapped our new-found friend to the roof of our car and  off we went to show mom and Charlie the fruit of our labors.

   “Look, Mommy…look at the tree we got,” Max proudly squeals when we arrive home.  Jeanne is ready with the boxes of ornaments and her collection of myriad snowmen.  Charlie’s eyes nearly blow out of their sockets when the musical Santa perched atop the chimney came out of storage. It was the last Christmas  gift from my mother.  It plays Jingle Bells and remains his favorite.

   Quickly, efficiently, and with  three  pairs of  little helping hands, our tree is transformed from a lonely spruce languishing in the far corner of a tree farm, to a place of honor in the bay of our living room.  Later that evening, the tree shines resplendent in lights and colors.  The kids smile and the stage is set.

   Jeanne and I do the slow walk-around  ritual  noting more than 20 years of our family Christmas times together.  These memories, in ornament form, are flanked by some of our extended family hand-me-downs.  We see, touch, and talk about the “Nole” sign Maggie made at age 5.  I laminated it to last as a self-deprecating slap at our home-educating prowess.  My eyes go to the top of the tree and I make the same comments I made last year and the year before and the year before……about the small Styrofoam ball with arms of pipe cleaners in the shape of the Christmas Star that I made when I was in the 5th grade.   In the middle of the tree, occupying a focal place of honor, hangs a small ceramic star with an even smaller picture of Sammy sitting in his Grandpa Joe’s lap, and I feel the movement in my wife’s heart wishing her father could see Sammy now.  The tour of the tree high-lights professional artwork of commercial store-bought decorations as well as the infinitely more precious hand-made works, such as a piece of red construction paper with a scribbled message saying simply, “Sammy, 1994.”

   Manheim Steamroller is oozing out of the stereo with their compelling arrangement of Silent Night, the version with the wind blowing and the sleigh bells fading into the distance at the end.  My father was a musician and I am triggered by the power of this piece to wish he could hear it with us tonight.  Finally, a longing gaze at the flames dancing above the logs in the fireplace calls to mind Jeanne’s mom Rosie, and the mood in the background of this evening is a silent witness to our existential anchors long since called away and, all too soon. The tree is complete now so the kids swarm mommy with hugs for transforming our home into a wonderland, with our many treasured memories of Christmases past.

   We are pumped and primed.  The buzz is in the air and it is time for the bringing of the gifts.  I can’t help but remember the feelings I had as a child, and they flood me each year as I watch our children with their excitement, hopes, and their growing expectations.  After all, as Max says, “The Big Guy is on his way!”

   And yet, this Christmas, and at this time in our lives, Jeanne and I are looking for something more than a buzz for the kids, and a fine Lutefisk dinner.  Just as we’ve done since Maggie was born, we’re  looking for some help.   I don’t mean the hope kind of help; you know, the philosophical stuff.  We’ve got that, and we guard the promises of God in an impenetrable lock-safe deep in our hearts.  More recently we are looking for some help answering the question, “who will help these guys when we are gone?”  It’s a burden growing exponentially in our hearts each Christmas.

   You see, 3 years ago something terrible happened to our youngest son Charlie and its been a “game-changer” for our entire family.  If there be such a thing as a “cross of sadness”, it’s on that cross  my wife and I hang, and plead to God daily, “please help the boys, especially Charlie.”

   The “what happened” question will be answered elsewhere in these pages.  But, for now, we are just wondering, “Who else, besides the Most High God, will listen to and offer to help with our unremitting heartache, confusion, sadness, and the myriad uncertainties concerning the futures awaiting our boys?  Who knows how to cry that cry?”  Then, how do we navigate the future for these three young men, considering their disabilities and their many needs?

   Conventional wisdom has, (essentially since the 1960’s) shifted responsibility for managing the care for the disabled from the family to the state and, today social workers have been inserted where parents now fear to tread.   Such has become a mandate for the professional classes, the medical community as well as all levels of education, and the legal establishment, just to name a few.

   But, the Doctors, Teachers, and Lawyers of today can only give what their business plans allow.  And, considering the Clerics within the Christian Church  today, there seems little difference between their ministries and the experience of the despised Samaritan lying in the ditch described in the Gospel of Luke.

   As for me and my boys, hearing “I’ll pray for you brother” can be more hurtful than helpful.  That is because unless you stop and get into the dirt of the ditch in which your brother/sister/mother/father is lying and perhaps even dying, the Christ one confesses may, in fact, be invisible.  I’ve had a hard time seeing Christ in much of the Church over the past years.

   So, the search goes on.

    Drawing on data published by the Barna Research Group 2001, Part Two of “Searching For The Samaritans” will examine the beliefs expressed by the institutional Christian Church in 21st Century America.  Think; Laodicea.